The Power Trick - What Drives Powerful Men To Self-Sabotage?

There is a pathology behind the powerful men who keep thrusting themselves into the scandal spotlight.

Dominique Strauss-Kahn, former head of the International Monetary Fund who was also on a path towards the presidency in France, admitted to having an affair with a "subordinate" employee in 2008. He's now awaiting trial on charges for sexually assaulting a maid in his room at New York's Sofitel Hotel. Lovely.

Arnold Schwarzenegger admitted to having an affair and fathering a child with a woman on his personal staff, while secretly adding her to yet another payroll: child support. Awesome.

There seem to be countless "powerful man has an affair with/or sexually assaults woman he assumes is powerless" headlines all over celebrity, sports, and political culture. It destroys careers, crushes families, and ruins reputations in the blink of an eye, but it just keeps happening. Over and over and over again.

So, why do powerful men seek maids and hookers and subordinates to have sex with? We all want to figure out what the hell it's all about, right? Well, as turns out, there's much more to this phenomenon than dirty douchebags simply not being able to keep it in their pants. I know, shocker. As with many of life's mysteries, this goes way deeper than that.

Here's the deal: ego-mania and narcissism are on the opposite side of the same coin of extremely low self-worth. Yes, it's true. People who act like G-d's gift are actually, underneath all the BS and showmanship, pretty sure they're a worthless piece of crap. So, to offset those unfortunate feelings of worthlessness, they spend their time working to convince people - including themselves - that they're powerful. It's a sad story, really.

It often happens like this. A smart man wants to be with a smart, sexy, self-assured woman. So, he goes for it (read: Maria Shriver and Anne Sinclair). Then, life happens. Ups and downs, good and bad, etc. Along the ride the man's fragile ego is tampered with and his insecurities are highlighted, and because of his super-special concoction of inner turmoil, he can't manage himself and his fractured sense of self as some other people do. These men need something to make themselves feel better, and what's their drug of choice? Power. So, the logical next step is to find someone or do something to make themselves feel powerful. Ya know, like have sex with an employee. Assault a maid. Rinse and repeat. It's an addiction.

Just like drugs or alcohol often serve the purpose of drowning out a greater emptiness inside, an addiction to power drowns out the vulnerability, weakness, frailty, and sadness, that lives underneath the surface. Am I saying what these guys have done is okay? Um, no, it's f'ing sick. But that's exactly it-it's sick. They're sick.

They have an addiction to power; an addiction to wearing a mask made up of people and things and acts that make them feel above others, only to distract from the fact that they feel so below. This isn't a conscious pattern, a thought out decision, or a malicious plan. This doesn't determine if someone is a good person - or a good dad. Power addiction is what weak egos cling to to keep themselves afloat. It's sad, because feeling powerful by making others feel and seem powerless doesn't actually result in real power. It's a trick...a power-trick.

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